Mean Guys

Written By: Hafsa Shorish
Well we all have heard a lot about hundred and one negative traits in women like how clingy they can get and in no time they can turn into whining little machines and thus turn the relationship into a suffocating shell. Women are so emotional, they expect a lot, they are attention-seekers and the list can go and on and on. (Ouch that hurts!) Let me first clarify that sure women do have some loopholes since no specie is perfect but that does not imply that women alone are the trouble-making party. As a girl, I see there are some genuine downsides and horrible hitches that our society is going through in general and these trends have evolved and developed into the edgy vogues. This article is not at all aimed at defaming men and singing the praises of women but instead I would like to briefly pinpoint the things that guys nowadays do without realizing that how rude they can appear to the other person. Moreover, they are also oblivious to the fact that their roguish attitude just gets over the top at times. Unfortunately, to find a man with some, class, poise and grace is almost becoming a rarity in this epoch. To shout at your friends and call them names is never considered a decent thing, but it is just so common these days to NOT talk politely because it is just not a manly thing to talk nicely. Whoa!!! that’s like the weirdest explanation anybody could come up with. If a guy talks courteously or in a respectable tone, that surely does not make him a sissy but it definitely transforms him into a gentleman. Well-groomed and well-mannered men are liked by everyone and that’s why icons like Humphrey Bogart, Gregory Peck, Cary Grant, Dilip Kumar, Waheed Murad etc never lose their eternal charm. Men like them keep on mesmerizing generations of women regardless of their age.
Ah! Another bothersome fact is that God knows what has gone wrong with the sense of dressing among guys. It is totally explicable that one does not have to wear designer clothes to stand out or only when you wear a double-breasted suit with a classy tie and sophisticated cufflinks, then you are called a proper gentleman. It is just the way men carry themselves has to be exclusive and mannish. It is quite exasperating to see men walking with their slouching shoulders and jeans hanging almost below their rear ends. Moreover, some fashion trends should only be restricted to women, why would a guy want to wear rings or bracelets?!?!?! That’s like the biggest put off. It is such a sad irony that in order to look dominating and threatening, guys tend to opt for feminine accessories, they get their ears pierced, they wear chains and moreover now they also wear t-shirts saying “tough guys wear pink”.
Similarly, some guys find it excruciatingly difficult to make few chivalrous gestures. Believe it or not but a lot of women still find the protective and Herculean nature of men pretty irresistible. Simple things such as opening the door, giving away your seat, and letting the women speak first can make a lasting impression on numerous hearts and minds. The use of abusive language has always been looked down upon; I wonder why it is denoted as a sign of brazen courage now.
If a guy is “hurt” then that does not give him the license to say nasty tings even to his guy friends, there are many other ways to let out one’s anger.
Since we are heading towards a heavily techno-savvy age, thus there are few glitches which are now taken as appropriate norms for example to break up through a text message or to simply end a relationship by changing your relationship status on facebook is quite an OKAY thing to do for guys but it just gives terrible vibes to girls.
Furthermore, guys must be decisive and focused in their lives but these days they keep wandering off for years and still remain uncertain about what they want to do in future or who they want to be with for the rest of their life. This dithering attitude also affects their relationship and often leads to a shaky outcome. Precisely, mean guys need to put a halt at their malevolent ways and sincerely make an effort to modify themselves into sober and dignified individuals.
p.s. All guys are not mean!
The views expressed in this article are her own and do not necessarily coincide with those of Team Pink