Relationships

Uh oh that’s the sound of heartbreak

Written by Hafsa Shorish

An outlandish feeling makes hostage all girls at some point in their lives. They start believing that they have come across the man of their dreams, and now he has “got to” make their dreams come true. This bizarre feeling is commonly known as “Love”. Well, I am also an ardent follower of true love since it would not be hyperbolic to state that yes every girl wants a special someone in her life with whom the world seems to be a secure, beautiful and idyllic place. I still do believe that true love does exist regardless of the fact that cupidity has plagued our society to a great extent. Sigh! Okay let’s not get into the nitty-gritty details of this perplexing real world out there because it is always better to see things under an optimistic periscope.
What I will be discussing below is the topic which is often suppressed or looked down upon in our society. We all would agree that heartbreak is a terrible thing. We all detest it because it makes our hearts ache and renders us weak from the inside. Our imaginative fairytales and enchanted fantasies just frizzle out in a split second once our overrated *Romeos* walk out on us due to “xyz” reasons. Majority of the girls tend to blame themselves if something goes wrong in their relationships, surprisingly, they simply put the burden on their shoulders and begin to make remedies. At times they even become obsessed with the “winning him back” phase. They end up doing stupid things which eventually paves way to create further distances. If a guy does not like a girl, then the girl should just get the hint and must not pester him like an annoying little kid. Rejection surely has a bitter taste but it is better to be safe than sorry. If the guy is not interested in you, it would just be quite evident in plenty of ways so why waste time over somebody who clearly does not want to be with you? I know our crazy, confusing hearts just don’t let us accept this harsh reality but seriously, the sooner we realize it, the better it will be for us to make the right decisions.
In other scenarios, it is merely a crush but it takes some girls a long while to understand that their crushes are either taken, committed or they might be simply out of their league. Crushes should not be able to make you go gaga over guys that you might not ever get to be with. You dream about them and take them in a light-hearted spirit. Come on, we must not let that infamous vulnerability streak command us to a point that we end up becoming the butt of all jokes.
So in a nutshell, we girls need to be strong. There are ebbs and flows in all aspects of our lives. Seriously, the world would not end if we do not become the eve of our so called beloveds’ hearts. We should enjoy the pleasure of being who we are. Crying, whining and even wailing over men who were not meant to be with us is a futile endeavor. We need to value ourselves and be confident about all that we do. Like I said earlier, yeah we all crave for chivalrous and caring men but that does not mean you just wait for your prince to appear one fine day and then take you to some utopia. We ought to be strong and decisive and must be acceptable of the “love me or leave me” mentality. Kindly don’t take me wrong, I am not trying to preach any sort of hard-core feminism and I am neither the prudent Oprah nor the relationship-issues connoisseur Dr. Phil but the message that I want to get across is that, “girls don’t lose your self-respect”. We should learn from our harsh experiences and must evolve as a person. Instead of playing the blame-game and how and why what happened, we must move forward and think of accomplishing things that make us happy. There is no harm in loving someone but don’t let that love jeopardize you emotionally or strangle you intellectually.
So yes girls please stay pink and stay strong!!
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22 comments

Amber November 29, 2009 at 1:07 am

I couldn’t agree more! I like this article missy

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Anem November 29, 2009 at 2:27 am

Man I loved it. All of it is so true !!! You’re a genius love.. so well written.. everything ! I think I should read it like twice a day at least. I love how you put this.. “don’t let that love jeopardize you emotionally or strangle you intellectually.”.. seriously!
*applauds* =)
PS. You could’ve used a better image though.

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Oyuka November 29, 2009 at 8:15 am

Hey Hafsa,
it is very true that we shouldnt obsess over guys who are not into you at all.. i agree on the sooner you realize the better for you that way you can enjoy other aspects of life and can meet better people ^_^
awesome article…
all the best 🙂

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Hasnain November 29, 2009 at 7:04 pm

Great Message
“girls don’t lose your self-respect”
I would Like to add something here. Since I am a Guy & I know boys Very well. This has become a charm of a boy to have a Hot & Sexy Girl with his all the time(sorry for these words but this is what they use)
Majority of the boys just hook up with girl just to have some good time. and girls take it serious. where they should not. There are thousands of ways to test a boy rather than trusting him Blindly.
I have seen so many cases where girl is crying at the end & the guy has no problem, he is actually looking forward for another girl friend. So I dont think a sensible girl should trust some guy so fast.
Respect Girls 😉
Hasnain

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Cassie November 30, 2009 at 9:16 am

well-written!
so true!
love it<3

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amina November 30, 2009 at 9:52 am

amazing piece of writing!!

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Cassie November 30, 2009 at 9:54 am

beautifully written
it’s so true and touching<3

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hafsa November 30, 2009 at 9:55 am

awww thank you everybody!!:)

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Love pink November 30, 2009 at 12:37 pm

Hey Hafsa
This is absolutely true,
I learned it the hard way because I went through it but in the end it made me strong! Today I am as strong as a rock! Although today I am going through the same situation but this time I have decided to tell the guy and see his reaction. But I am going to accept what I have and not cry over him, I decided earlier on this.
What you have written, is absolutely true and I will give the same advice to all the girls that “girls don’t lose your self-respect”
Stay Pink! 🙂

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Meha November 30, 2009 at 12:51 pm

This is so truee I love it 🙂

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Ahmad Babar November 30, 2009 at 11:21 pm

What I like about this piece is that it’s coming from a girl. Over the years I have seen girls crumble and other girls in their attempts to not make their friends cry by telling them the truth keep on weaving a web of false hope around them, a web that ultimately ends up strangling the friend they had set out to support.
Just to add to the article, girls, love happens, let it happen. Don’t try to force it. We as humans are all different from one another and some of us need more time to come to terms with the influx of feelings. Same goes for guys, learn to be patient and when you see that its not working out, pull the plug, don’t wait there hoping that somehow the sinking ship you are stuck in will be saved by your “superman”.
Self-respect is the key to success in not just love relationships but also in other aspects of our lives. If we don’t respect ourselves, no one else will respect us. Do not try to change yourself for others, improve yourself, that we must all do but don’t change 🙂
and send in your queries at relationships@pinkontheweb.com .
Regards,
Ahmad B.
Editor-in-Chief.

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Bilal December 5, 2009 at 4:09 pm

This was the finest article here so far..write more hafsa
good luck=)

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Waqas H. Mehr December 12, 2009 at 7:48 am

I must say that we should have such articles published in magazines and visible to general public. Keep it up Hafsa. Keep writing good stuff:)

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Pinkista December 18, 2009 at 12:35 pm

Hafsa u have written a brilliant article wid such a strong wave in it…
Keep it up keep amazing and supporting broken-heart girls through ur power of words!!

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Shanaz December 20, 2009 at 2:16 am

hey i think the concept of this article is GREAT!
love the way you write hafsa!
pls write more. i am waiting for your next artcile.
xx

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Shanaz December 21, 2009 at 12:09 am

article*

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Halima December 22, 2009 at 1:29 am

NICE=]

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wardah December 23, 2009 at 10:05 am

i like it=)

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marryum December 23, 2009 at 2:11 pm

love ittttt <3

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Hafsa January 4, 2010 at 3:05 am

thanks a lot everyone:)

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Dizmi January 30, 2010 at 2:03 am

meaningful title..u got the skills .keep up ur gud work!

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Sarah February 15, 2010 at 7:06 am

sooo true..em totalli agree wid u hafsa..
jus love it…

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