Written by Hafsa Shorish
An outlandish feeling makes hostage all girls at some point in their lives. They start believing that they have come across the man of their dreams, and now he has “got to” make their dreams come true. This bizarre feeling is commonly known as “Love”. Well, I am also an ardent follower of true love since it would not be hyperbolic to state that yes every girl wants a special someone in her life with whom the world seems to be a secure, beautiful and idyllic place. I still do believe that true love does exist regardless of the fact that cupidity has plagued our society to a great extent. Sigh! Okay let’s not get into the nitty-gritty details of this perplexing real world out there because it is always better to see things under an optimistic periscope.
What I will be discussing below is the topic which is often suppressed or looked down upon in our society. We all would agree that heartbreak is a terrible thing. We all detest it because it makes our hearts ache and renders us weak from the inside. Our imaginative fairytales and enchanted fantasies just frizzle out in a split second once our overrated *Romeos* walk out on us due to “xyz” reasons. Majority of the girls tend to blame themselves if something goes wrong in their relationships, surprisingly, they simply put the burden on their shoulders and begin to make remedies. At times they even become obsessed with the “winning him back” phase. They end up doing stupid things which eventually paves way to create further distances. If a guy does not like a girl, then the girl should just get the hint and must not pester him like an annoying little kid. Rejection surely has a bitter taste but it is better to be safe than sorry. If the guy is not interested in you, it would just be quite evident in plenty of ways so why waste time over somebody who clearly does not want to be with you? I know our crazy, confusing hearts just don’t let us accept this harsh reality but seriously, the sooner we realize it, the better it will be for us to make the right decisions.
In other scenarios, it is merely a crush but it takes some girls a long while to understand that their crushes are either taken, committed or they might be simply out of their league. Crushes should not be able to make you go gaga over guys that you might not ever get to be with. You dream about them and take them in a light-hearted spirit. Come on, we must not let that infamous vulnerability streak command us to a point that we end up becoming the butt of all jokes.
So in a nutshell, we girls need to be strong. There are ebbs and flows in all aspects of our lives. Seriously, the world would not end if we do not become the eve of our so called beloveds’ hearts. We should enjoy the pleasure of being who we are. Crying, whining and even wailing over men who were not meant to be with us is a futile endeavor. We need to value ourselves and be confident about all that we do. Like I said earlier, yeah we all crave for chivalrous and caring men but that does not mean you just wait for your prince to appear one fine day and then take you to some utopia. We ought to be strong and decisive and must be acceptable of the “love me or leave me” mentality. Kindly don’t take me wrong, I am not trying to preach any sort of hard-core feminism and I am neither the prudent Oprah nor the relationship-issues connoisseur Dr. Phil but the message that I want to get across is that, “girls don’t lose your self-respect”. We should learn from our harsh experiences and must evolve as a person. Instead of playing the blame-game and how and why what happened, we must move forward and think of accomplishing things that make us happy. There is no harm in loving someone but don’t let that love jeopardize you emotionally or strangle you intellectually.
So yes girls please stay pink and stay strong!!
Submit your articles and more at firstname.lastname@example.org
Written by Hafsa Shorish