Here are 10 reasons/ways why you should own your spouse

Written by: Mina Irfan
Let me quickly explain myself before I start getting hate mail from feminists. I don’t mean “own” in the abusive, manipulative sense, but own as in take into ownership and possession (yes, I realize I am digging myself into a deeper hole here).
Here are 10 reasons/ways why you should own your spouse:
1.) You and your spouse decided to get married and become ONE unit. There is so much emphasis these days on couples seeking space and trying to preserve their own individuality, but not enough on being and becoming truly ONE. Become ONE by seeing yourself as an extension of your spouse. The female and male versions of the same unit.
2.) When you take ownership of something, you suddenly become responsible for them. Make your spouse your sole responsibility. They now belong to you. Maintain them as you would maintain anything else you own. Nurture them, make sure they are well and healthy. Devote time and energy into their happiness.
3.) Solve each and every problem from a “us vs. the problem” standpoint as opposed to “you vs. me.” When we got married, my husband asked me to make sure he never has to defend himself alone. He can rest assured I will always be on his “team” because we are one team and one unit.
4.) If you feel that your spouse in wrong in certain situations, try to see it from their standpoint as opposed to dismissing their concerns simply because “they don’t get it”. If they feel there is a problem, then there is a problem, regardless if you feel the same way or not. It they are misunderstanding something ,then you are a poor communicator. You see how it goes both ways? Remember, you are one unit and if one half of a unit has an issue, so does the other half.
5.) Put your spouse above all other relationships and obligations. Ever notice how it is impossible to have a good day at work or even a simple conversation with your mother if you are not getting along with your other half? Hard right? This relationship effects all other relationships in your life. If your relationship with your spouse is strong, everything else suddenly falls into place.
6.) Know that good marital connections are not made in heaven. They are manufactured and maintained right here on Earth. So bust the fairy tale bubble and get to work on making your current partner your soul mate.
7.) Never, Ever make your spouse feel like you are choosing or defending someone else over them. There are tactful ways of doing everything. Learn to be tactful. Never tell your spouse that they are wrong and start defending others. For example, instead of saying “your misunderstanding, my best friend doesn’t hate you, she is not like that,” say “I’m sorry you feel that he/she hates you, I’m sure there must have been a misunderstanding, but don’t worry we will try to fix it.” You are essentially saying the same thing here, but in the second scenario you are empathic and on your spouse’s side, rather than accusing them of misunderstanding your friend, thus supporting the friend.
8.) Another reason you should own your spouse, is because the law sees you as one entity. You both are responsible for each others finances as well as health care decisions. Guess who gets to decide whether you live on life support or to pull the plug?
9.) You made babies together. If you and your spouse have kids – all the more reason to take ownership of them. They are not only your other half – but half of your children’s DNA belongs to them!
10.) Your union has joined two extended families into one huge extended network. Own your spouse and their families. It’s all in the numbers. See your marriage as a way to personal growth and development. You are now part of something bigger. Own it and Enjoy it.
Mina Irfan is the author of theuniverseguru.com. She considers writing her passion and is currently working on her first book. Mina has a degree in Communication Studies from Northwestern University.