Written By: Hafsa Shorish
Okay i quite often say that i love hafsa (myself) and people who know me do actually *know* how i often i use it, most of the times i say it out of sheer non-seriousness and pure fun just to bug my friends a little more, some of the times i say it just to myself when i do something good or worthy of a pat at the back and then there are times when i actually think deeper and a lot about why do we have to love ourselves. I am neither a distinguished scholar nor a pious saint but here is what i feel, maybe this is what we all feel but we just reach to this conclusion differently and we have named it in various ways.I do believe in self-love and this self-love does not make you a selfish person, instead it only makes you a wiser person you just don’t have to go overboard with it. Now i guess it is enough of me and my, lets talk about you guys:D..so yes why should you love yourself? By loving ourselves i mean to say that you have to believe in yourself, you have to respect yourself, you have to value what you believe in, you have to stand up for what you hearts says yes to, you have to love your ideas, your notions, your concepts, your surroundings, the people you are associated with and all the things that you do and the things that you want to do.
There is no formula to it, no usage of algebraic expression, no algorithmic equation involved, all you have to have is self-respect and trust me it is not very hard to maintain your self-respect once you know it’s actual worth. Now here comes the catch-22, how do you define the worth of your self-respect? what is self-respect? Well, the answer varies from person to person, some simply discard it while there are others who are struggling with it and then there is also a group of people who take it for granted. They do not care about it at all. To me, what a person think of himself/herself matters more than what other think of him/her and i am not advocating arrogance in any form or manner here but i am trying to shed the light upon the fact that if you are not honest to yourself, if you hurt somebody by saying mean things then you are actually hurting and lying to yourself because it is you who has failed to keep up the promise and guard your self-respect. So when you solely “aim” at belittling others next time, just think for a moment that you are actually falling way down in your own eyes and you know it because one can just feel such things. They cannot be taught or exercised. In the end i would say that make this quotation of Clint Eastwood one of your favorites: “Respect your efforts, respect yourself. Self-respect leads to self-discipline. When you have both firmly under your belt, that’s real power.”?